मनोबैज्ञानिकहरुका अनुसार सम्बन्ध र सेक्सका विषयमा महिला र पुरुषको सोच
अलग अलग हुने गर्दछ। उनीहरुका अनुसार महिला जोसँगै प्रेम गर्दछन् उसैसँग
शारीरिक सम्बन्ध कायम गर्दछन् तर पुरुषहरुको सोच योभन्दा निकै फरक हुन्छ ।
शोधकर्ताहरुले मनौवैज्ञानिक तरिकाले अध्ययन गरेर यो परिणाम सार्वजनिक गरेका हुन् । उनीहरुले युवतीहरुलाई कुनै पुरुष आफूतिर आकर्षित हुनुलाई प्रेम नठान्न चेतावनीसमेत दिएका छन् । किनभने शोधबाट बढीजसो पुरुषले सेक्सका लागि महिलाहरुसँग मित्रता गर्दछन् । उनीहरु सम्बन्धको चक्करमा पर्न चाहँदैनन् ।
जबकि महिलाको सोच पुरुषको भन्दा विल्कुल फरक हुन्छ। उनीहरु कसैसँग मित्रता कायम गरेपछि मात्र उसँग डेटिङ्ग जाने गर्दछन् त्यसपछि मात्र सेक्सका बारेमा सोच्दछन् । जब पुरुष साथी मित्रतामा खरो उत्रन्छ तब उनीहरु सेक्सका विषयमा ध्यान दिन्छन् । तर अधिकांश पुरक्ष पहिलो भेटमै महिलाहरुसँग सम्बन्ध कायम गर्न आंतुर हुन्छन् । पुरुषहरु आकस्मिक सेक्समा विश्वास गर्दछन् ।
शोधकर्ता क्यारोलिन ब्रेडशाले कलेजका ७१ युवती र ७१ युवामा यो अध्ययन गरेका हुन् । शोधमा ४१ प्रतिशत युवतीले सेक्सभन्दा पहिला दिगो सम्बन्ध आफ्नो लागि अर्थ राख्ने बताएका थिए । यही २० प्रतिशत युवाले डेटिङ्गलाई महत्व दिए । अधिकांश युवाको भनाइ थियो–हामी आकस्मिक सेक्समा विश्वास राख्छौ । उनीहरु दीर्घ सम्बन्धलाई महत्व दिदैन थिए ।
यस अर्थमा महिलाहरु सेक्सभन्दा पहिला दीर्घ सम्बन्धको विषयमा सोच्दछन् तर पुरुष यो विषयमा अलग सोच राख्दछन् । एजेन्सी
शोधकर्ताहरुले मनौवैज्ञानिक तरिकाले अध्ययन गरेर यो परिणाम सार्वजनिक गरेका हुन् । उनीहरुले युवतीहरुलाई कुनै पुरुष आफूतिर आकर्षित हुनुलाई प्रेम नठान्न चेतावनीसमेत दिएका छन् । किनभने शोधबाट बढीजसो पुरुषले सेक्सका लागि महिलाहरुसँग मित्रता गर्दछन् । उनीहरु सम्बन्धको चक्करमा पर्न चाहँदैनन् ।
जबकि महिलाको सोच पुरुषको भन्दा विल्कुल फरक हुन्छ। उनीहरु कसैसँग मित्रता कायम गरेपछि मात्र उसँग डेटिङ्ग जाने गर्दछन् त्यसपछि मात्र सेक्सका बारेमा सोच्दछन् । जब पुरुष साथी मित्रतामा खरो उत्रन्छ तब उनीहरु सेक्सका विषयमा ध्यान दिन्छन् । तर अधिकांश पुरक्ष पहिलो भेटमै महिलाहरुसँग सम्बन्ध कायम गर्न आंतुर हुन्छन् । पुरुषहरु आकस्मिक सेक्समा विश्वास गर्दछन् ।
शोधकर्ता क्यारोलिन ब्रेडशाले कलेजका ७१ युवती र ७१ युवामा यो अध्ययन गरेका हुन् । शोधमा ४१ प्रतिशत युवतीले सेक्सभन्दा पहिला दिगो सम्बन्ध आफ्नो लागि अर्थ राख्ने बताएका थिए । यही २० प्रतिशत युवाले डेटिङ्गलाई महत्व दिए । अधिकांश युवाको भनाइ थियो–हामी आकस्मिक सेक्समा विश्वास राख्छौ । उनीहरु दीर्घ सम्बन्धलाई महत्व दिदैन थिए ।
यस अर्थमा महिलाहरु सेक्सभन्दा पहिला दीर्घ सम्बन्धको विषयमा सोच्दछन् तर पुरुष यो विषयमा अलग सोच राख्दछन् । एजेन्सी
महिलाले पुरुषबाट अपेक्षा गर्ने कुराहरु यहाँ प्रस्तुत गरिएका छन्
१. यदि दुईजना कुरा गरिरहनुभएको छ भने आफ्नी महिलाको कुराहरु सुन्नुहोस् । यसो गर्नुभयो भने भावनालाई कदर गरेको जस्तो देखिन्छ ।
२.महिलाहरु खराब मुडमा हुनुको कारण जहिले पनि महिनावारीको समस्या होइन भन्ने तथ्य पुरुषहरुले पहिल्याउन सक्ने हुनुपर्छ ।
३.पुरुषहरुमा भावनात्मक गुणको विकास । तर, यसो भन्नाले महिलाहरु पुरुषहरु रोएको हेर्न चाहन्छन् भन्ने होइन, मात्र पुरुष महिलाप्रति बढि संवेदनशील हुन् भन्ने चाहना हो ।
४. पुरुषहरुले आफ्नो मनको सबै भावनाहरु बाँडुन् भन्ने चाहना । पुरुषहरुले आफूलाई धेरै कुरा गरोस् भन्ने चाहना महिलाहरुको हुन्छ ।
५. पुरुषले आफ्नो परिवार र साथीभाइसँग शिष्ट व्यवहार देखाओस् भन्ने चाहना प्रत्येक महिलाको हुन्छ किनभने महिलाले पनि त्यस्तै व्यवहार गरिरहेका हुन्छन् ।
६. कहिलेकाँही आफ्नी महिलाको लागि खाना बनाइदिने । महिलाहरुलाई विशेष अवसरहरुमा केहि अचम्म भएको मन पराउँछन् ।
७. तपाईंको पुरुषत्वले तपाईंले चलाउने गाडीसँग केहि सम्बन्ध राख्दैन । गाडि जहिले पनि ठिक्कको गतिमा चलोस् भन्ने महिलाहरुको चाहना हुन्छ ।
८. आफ्नी महिलाप्रति रक्षात्मक हुनुहोस् उनमा अधिकार नजमाउनुहोस्, यसलाई मन्त्रजस्तै बनाउनुहोस् ।
९. आफ्नो पुरुषले माया गर्ने कुरा प्रचार गरोस् भन्ने कुरा महिला चाहन्छन् र उनीहरुले माया कसरी उजागर गर्ने र देखाउने भन्ने कुरा पुरुषहरुमा नै छोड्ने गर्दछन् ।
१०. महिलाहरुलाई गुमाउनु छ भने केहि कुरा ढाँटे नै काफी हुन्छ, उनलाई गुमाउनु छैन भने बफादार र साँचो कुराहरु बोल्ने गर्नुहोस् ।
१. यदि दुईजना कुरा गरिरहनुभएको छ भने आफ्नी महिलाको कुराहरु सुन्नुहोस् । यसो गर्नुभयो भने भावनालाई कदर गरेको जस्तो देखिन्छ ।
२.महिलाहरु खराब मुडमा हुनुको कारण जहिले पनि महिनावारीको समस्या होइन भन्ने तथ्य पुरुषहरुले पहिल्याउन सक्ने हुनुपर्छ ।
३.पुरुषहरुमा भावनात्मक गुणको विकास । तर, यसो भन्नाले महिलाहरु पुरुषहरु रोएको हेर्न चाहन्छन् भन्ने होइन, मात्र पुरुष महिलाप्रति बढि संवेदनशील हुन् भन्ने चाहना हो ।
४. पुरुषहरुले आफ्नो मनको सबै भावनाहरु बाँडुन् भन्ने चाहना । पुरुषहरुले आफूलाई धेरै कुरा गरोस् भन्ने चाहना महिलाहरुको हुन्छ ।
५. पुरुषले आफ्नो परिवार र साथीभाइसँग शिष्ट व्यवहार देखाओस् भन्ने चाहना प्रत्येक महिलाको हुन्छ किनभने महिलाले पनि त्यस्तै व्यवहार गरिरहेका हुन्छन् ।
६. कहिलेकाँही आफ्नी महिलाको लागि खाना बनाइदिने । महिलाहरुलाई विशेष अवसरहरुमा केहि अचम्म भएको मन पराउँछन् ।
७. तपाईंको पुरुषत्वले तपाईंले चलाउने गाडीसँग केहि सम्बन्ध राख्दैन । गाडि जहिले पनि ठिक्कको गतिमा चलोस् भन्ने महिलाहरुको चाहना हुन्छ ।
८. आफ्नी महिलाप्रति रक्षात्मक हुनुहोस् उनमा अधिकार नजमाउनुहोस्, यसलाई मन्त्रजस्तै बनाउनुहोस् ।
९. आफ्नो पुरुषले माया गर्ने कुरा प्रचार गरोस् भन्ने कुरा महिला चाहन्छन् र उनीहरुले माया कसरी उजागर गर्ने र देखाउने भन्ने कुरा पुरुषहरुमा नै छोड्ने गर्दछन् ।
१०. महिलाहरुलाई गुमाउनु छ भने केहि कुरा ढाँटे नै काफी हुन्छ, उनलाई गुमाउनु छैन भने बफादार र साँचो कुराहरु बोल्ने गर्नुहोस् ।
यदि तपाईं महिला हुनुहुन्छ भने आफ्नो भित्रि वस्त्र निकै सेक्सी लगाउनुहोस् ।
नुहाउनुहोस् र चिसै कपाल लिएर बाहिर निस्कनुहोस्, शरीरलाई राम्रो रुमालले बेहेर्नुहोस् । तपाईंको पार्टनरले गर्न लागेको काम पनि छोडेर तपाईं भएको ठाउँमा आउनुहुनेछ ।
कालो अथवा रातो सिल्क तन्नाको प्रयोग गर्नुहोस् ।
फोहोरी बोल्नुहोस् अथवा आफ्नो शरीरको हाउभाउ सेक्सी बनाउनुहोस् । तपाईंको व्यवहारले नै तपाईंले बोल्न चाहनुभएको कुरा खोलिदिन्छ ।
एक अर्कालाई महसुस गर्नुहोस् । उहाँको हात समात्नुहोस्, आफ्नो पार्टनर सुतिरहेको बेलामा कस्सेर अँगालोमा बाँध्नुहोस् ।
पुरुष मित्रहरु अब पालो तपाईंहरुको
महिलाहरुको पिठ्युँ निकै संवेदनशील हुन्छ । माहोललाई अँध्यारो बनाउनुहोस्, केहि मधुर संगीत बजाउनुहोस् र उनको पिठ्युँमा राम्रो मालिस गर्नुहोस् र हेर्नुहोस् अर्को चरणमा के हुन्छ ।
उनको कानसँग खेल्नुहोस् । केहि कुराहरु सानो स्वरमा भन्नुहोस् ।
उनलाई घाँटिमा काउकुती लगाउनुहोस्, उनी तत्कालै मुडमा आउने छिन् ।
उनको खुट्टाको मालिस गर्नाले पनि उनको मुड छिट्टै बदल्न मद्दत गर्छ ।
यी कुराहरु साधारण छन् तर निकै महत्वपूर्ण छन् । कहिलेकाँही क्लाइमेक्स भन्दा पनि प्रक्रिया महत्वपूर्ण हुन्छ ।
महिलाहरुको
मनभित्र के भइरहेको छ ? यो विषय पुरुषका लागि एउटा ठुलो प्रश्नका रुपमा
रहने गरेको छ। अझ यदि कुरा सेक्सको हो भने त यस्तो के कुरा छ जो महिलालाई
यतातिर आकर्षित गर्दछ ?
एक शोधका अनुसार कतिपयको बुझाईमा महिलामा सेक्सप्रति इच्छा जागृत हुनुको सम्बन्ध उनीहरुको उमेरसंग छ।
तथ्य त यो हो कि मध्यम उमेर र बढी उमेरका महिलाहरुमा यौन गतिविधिहरु केवल उमेरबाट नियन्त्रित हुंदैन। उनीहरुका लागि साथीको स्वास्थ्य र उसको सम्भोगप्रतिको उत्सुकताले ठुलो अर्थ राख्दछ। यसैबाट उनीहरु प्रभावित हुने गर्दछन्।
२८ देखि ३५ वर्ष उमेर समूहका महिलाहरु सेक्स गर्नका लागि सक्रिय त रहन्छन् तर उनीहरु सजिलै कामुक व्यवहार प्रदर्शन गर्दैनन् । यसविपरीत कयौ पटक साथीको उदासिनता, उसको स्वास्थ्य, साथीभित्रको सेक्सप्रतिको कम रुझान आदि कुराले पनि महिलाभित्रको सेक्स इच्छा समाप्त पार्न समाप्त पार्दछ।
हालै गरिएको एक अध्ययनअनुसार महिलाहरु पुरुषको शारीरिक बनावटमा बढी ध्यान दिने गर्दछन् । शक्तिशाली व्यक्तिप्रति शारीरिक रुपले महिलाहरु बढी आकर्षित हुने गर्दछन् । अध्ययनअनुसार महिलाहरु सामान्य पुरुषको तुलनामा हृष्टपृष्ट पुरुषतर्फ बढी आकर्षित हुन्छन् । यसका साथै पुरुषको आक्रामक व्यवहारले पनि बढीजसो महिलालाई खिच्ने गर्दछन्। एजेन्सी
एक शोधका अनुसार कतिपयको बुझाईमा महिलामा सेक्सप्रति इच्छा जागृत हुनुको सम्बन्ध उनीहरुको उमेरसंग छ।
तथ्य त यो हो कि मध्यम उमेर र बढी उमेरका महिलाहरुमा यौन गतिविधिहरु केवल उमेरबाट नियन्त्रित हुंदैन। उनीहरुका लागि साथीको स्वास्थ्य र उसको सम्भोगप्रतिको उत्सुकताले ठुलो अर्थ राख्दछ। यसैबाट उनीहरु प्रभावित हुने गर्दछन्।
२८ देखि ३५ वर्ष उमेर समूहका महिलाहरु सेक्स गर्नका लागि सक्रिय त रहन्छन् तर उनीहरु सजिलै कामुक व्यवहार प्रदर्शन गर्दैनन् । यसविपरीत कयौ पटक साथीको उदासिनता, उसको स्वास्थ्य, साथीभित्रको सेक्सप्रतिको कम रुझान आदि कुराले पनि महिलाभित्रको सेक्स इच्छा समाप्त पार्न समाप्त पार्दछ।
हालै गरिएको एक अध्ययनअनुसार महिलाहरु पुरुषको शारीरिक बनावटमा बढी ध्यान दिने गर्दछन् । शक्तिशाली व्यक्तिप्रति शारीरिक रुपले महिलाहरु बढी आकर्षित हुने गर्दछन् । अध्ययनअनुसार महिलाहरु सामान्य पुरुषको तुलनामा हृष्टपृष्ट पुरुषतर्फ बढी आकर्षित हुन्छन् । यसका साथै पुरुषको आक्रामक व्यवहारले पनि बढीजसो महिलालाई खिच्ने गर्दछन्। एजेन्सी
–एक चिकन एगमा यदि महिलाको जीवाणु भरिदिने हो भने यो यति धेरै संख्यामा हुनेछ कि यसबाट पृथ्वीको समग्र जनसंख्या जन्माउन सकिन्छ ।
–श्वेत महिलाहरु बढी मात्रामा गुद्दा मैथुन गर्दछन् र यदि उनीहरु पढेलेखेका छन् भने त संख्या अरु पनि बढी हुने गर्दछ ।
–रोमान्टिक उपन्यास पढ्ने महिलाहरुको नपढन्को तुलनामा दोब्बर प्रेमी हुन्छन् ।
–८० वर्षभन्दा बढी उमेरका महिलामध्ये एक तिहाई यस्ता हुन्छन् जो आफ्नो पति वा ब्वाइफ्रेण्डका साथ सेक्स गर्दछन् ।
–यो निकै सामान्य तथ्य हो कि अधिकांश महिला अँधेरोमा सेक्स गर्न मन पराउछन् ।
–उत्पादनशील अवस्थामा हरेक एक महिलाले औषतः ३ हजार पटक सेक्स सम्बन्ध कायम राख्छन् ।
–४३ प्रतिशत महिला यस्ता हुन्छन्, जसले गुद्दा मैथुनको अनुभव बटुलेका हुन्छन् ।
–एक महिलाको शरीरमा एक स्पर्म सेल नौं दिनसम्म जीवित रहन सक्छ ।
–महिलाका लागि पुरुषको लिङ्गको आकार एक मानिसको सबैभन्दा महत्वपूर्ण कारकमा नवौं स्थानमा हुन्छ । अर्थात उनीहरुले लिङ्गको आधारलाई बढी महत्व दिँदैनन् ।
–यो तथ्यलाई लिएर मतभेद हुन सक्छ । तर, जब महिलाहरु मुख मैथुन गर्दछन् तब तीस प्रतिशत वीर्य निल्ने गर्दछन् भन्ने दावी गरिन्छ ।
–जुन महिलाको आँखाको परेला बढी ठुलो हुन्छ, त्यस्ता महिलालाई अधिक आकर्षक मान्ने गरिएको छ ।
–५० प्रतिशत एकल महिला आफ्नो तेस्रो डेटमा सेक्समा लिप्त हुन्छन् ।
–अन्य कुनै उमेर समूहको तुलनामा ४० भन्दा बढी उमेरका महिला हस्तमैदुनमा लिप्त रहने सम्भावना बढी हुन्छ ।
–सेक्समा मामिलामा पनि महिलाहरुले बौद्धिकतालाई महत्व दिने गर्दछन् । आफ्नो साथी बौद्धिक दृष्टिले आफूभन्दा कमस्तरको छ भने ४४ प्रतिशत महिला सेक्सको मजा लिन पाउँदैनन् । पुरुषमा भने ३१ प्रतिशतले मात्र यस्तो सोच्ने गर्दछन् ।
–यो थाहा पाएर तपाई आश्चर्यमा पर्नुहुनेछ कि एउटै मात्र अंग्रेजी भाषामा योनीका लागि एक हजारभन्दा बढी शब्द छन्, जुन अहिले प्रयोग गर्ने गरिन्छ ।
–जापानका ७५ प्रतिशत महिलासँग एउटा भाइब्रेटर हुने गर्दछ । जबकि सारा संसारका लागि यो आँकलन ४७ प्रतिशत हो ।
–अधिकांश महिला या भनौ करिब ८५ प्रतिशत महिला आफ्नो साथीको लिङ्गको आकारबाट सन्तुष्ट हुन्छन् ।
–एक महिलाको भंग शिश्न –क्लिटरिस) मा एक लिङ्गको तुलनामा दोब्बर फाइबर्स हुने गर्दछ ।
–हरेक पाँच महिलामध्ये एक यस्ता हुन्छन् जब ब्वाईफ्रेण्डका साथ रहन्छन् तब उनीहरुका एकभन्दा बढी सेक्स पार्टनर हुन्छन् ।
–अन्य कुनै समयको तुलनामा महिलाका लागि चरमसुखको महशुस तब अधिक सहज हुन्छ जबकि उनीहरु अन्डोत्सर्गका लागि तयार हुन्छन् । जब यस्तो महशुस हुन्छ महिलाको योनी ३० प्रतिशतसम्म खुम्चने गर्दछ ।
–यस्तो भनिन्छ कि केही महिलाहरु बच्चा जन्माउने बेलामा पनि चरम सुख महशुस गर्दछन् ।
–सहवासमा क्रममा करिब ७० प्रतिशत महिलाका लागि जरुरी हुन्छ कि उनीहरुको शिश्नलाई लगातार उत्तेजित गराइयोस ।
–५९ प्रतिशत महिला यस्ता हुन्छन् जसको अतितमा सेक्स सम्बन्ध रहने गरेको हुन्छ । उनीहरु यसका बारेमा आफ्नो पति वा वर्तमान साथीलाई बताउँदैनन् । तर, यसो गर्ने पुरुषको संख्या ६८ प्रतिशतसम्म हुन्छ ।
–आम रुपमा उत्तेजित योनि चार इञ्चसम्म लामो हुन्छ जबकि यसको तुलनामा एक उत्तजेजित लिङ्गको आकार ६ इञ्चसम्म हुने गर्दछ ।
–आमरुपमा यदि महिला जब हस्तमैथुन गर्दछन् तब उनीहरुलाई चरमसुखको अवस्थासम्म पुग्न करिब चार मिनेट लाग्दछ । तर, सहबासका क्रममा यो समय १० देखि २० मिनेटसम्म लाग्दछ ।
–सेक्सका क्रममा पचास प्रतिशतभन्दा बढी अश्वेत महिला, श्वेत महिलाको तुलनामा सुखका अनुभव गर्दछन् ।
–चुरोट नखाने ६० प्रतिशत महिलाको जति अवधिमा कुनै सेक्स सहयोगी हुँदैन, यही चुरोट खाने ७० प्रतिशत महिलाको चारभन्दा बढी सेक्स सहयोग हुन्छन् ।
–जुन महिलामा माइग्रेसनको समस्या छ, उनीहरुमा सेक्स इच्छा अधिक हुने गर्दछ र जसमा यो विमारी छैन उनीहरुका काम बासनाको स्तर कम हुन्छ ।
–आफ्नो श्रीमानलाई धोका दिएर सम्बन्ध बनाउने ५० प्रतिशतभन्दा बढी महिला विवाहित प्रेमी मन पराउछन् ।
–करिब एक प्रतिशत महिला यति सम्वेदनशील हुन्छन् कि उनीहरुलाई मात्र वक्षको माड्ने वा दबाउँदै चरमसुखको अनुभूति हुन्छ ।
–एक साताको अवधिमा कम्तीमा २२ प्रतिशत महिला आफ्नो कमसेकम पाँच साथीसँग आफ्नो सहयोगीका साथ पहिलो सेक्सको अनुभव बताउने गर्दछन् । एजेन्सी
लण्डन(एजेन्सीहरु), यौन सन्तुष्टि बारे गरिएको सर्भेमा छिमेकी मुलुक भारत तेस्रो स्थानमा छ । भारतीयहरुले शारीरीक सम्बन्धलाई सुःखी र सफल दाम्पत्य जीवनको एक महत्वपूर्ण अंग मानेका छन् ।
५० प्रतिशतभन्दा बढी भारतीयले यो सम्बन्धबाट सन्तुष्ट रहेको स्वीकारेका छन् । पश्चिमा सञ्चारमाध्यमहरुले लगातारको यौन हिंसापछि भारत बारे ‘सबभन्दा ठूलो लोकतान्त्रिक मुलुकमा बलात्कार’ शीर्षकमा थुप्रै खबर छापेको बेला यो निः सन्देह सकारात्मक सन्देस हो ।
डुरेक्स कन्डोम निर्माण गर्ने एक बेलायती कम्पनिद्धारा गरिएको सर्भेमा भारतका ६१ प्रतिशत जनता स्वस्थ यौन अभ्यासबाट सन्तुष्ट छन् । सर्भेमा पहिलो स्थान नाइजेरिया (६७ प्रतिशत) र दोस्रो स्थानमा उत्तर अमेरिकी मुलुक मेक्सिको(६३प्रतिशत) छ । यसपछि पोल्याण्ड(५४प्रतिशत), ग्रीस(५१ प्रतिशत), होल्याण्ड(५० प्रतिशत), दक्षिण अफ्रिका (५०प्रतिशत) र स्पेन ( ४९ प्रतिशत ) छ । उक्त कम्पनिले यो सर्भेमा संख्यात्मकभन्दा गुणात्मक र स्तरिय सम्बन्धलाई आधार बनाएको हो ।
रोचक पक्ष के छ भने आफ्नो जीवनकालमा १० देखि १२ जनासम्म यौन साथी बनाउने अमेरिका र क्यानाडाका मात्र ४८ प्रतिशत जनताले यौनमा सन्तुष्ट रहेको बताएका छन् । भारतीय जोडीमा यौनक्रिडा र चरम सुखको दौरानमा शारीरीक, मानसिक एवं भावनात्मक समर्पण धेरै बढी देखिएको सर्भेमा भनिएको छ ।
डुरेक्सले तनाव मुक्त सम्बन्ध, यौन स्वीकार्यता, सेक्स सम्बन्धी भ्रम र यसको निरन्तरतासँग जोडिएको प्रश्न गरेको थियो । सर्भेमा भारतीयहरुको यौन जीवन पश्चिमाभन्दा अब्बल देखियो । बाहिरबाट नीकै सरल र सामान्य देखिने भारतीयहरुले देखावटी र नक्कली जीवनयापनभन्दा अझैं टाढा रहेको हुनाले प्राकृतिक यौनान्द लिन सकेको सर्भेमा भनिएको छ ।
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५० प्रतिशतभन्दा बढी भारतीयले यो सम्बन्धबाट सन्तुष्ट रहेको स्वीकारेका छन् । पश्चिमा सञ्चारमाध्यमहरुले लगातारको यौन हिंसापछि भारत बारे ‘सबभन्दा ठूलो लोकतान्त्रिक मुलुकमा बलात्कार’ शीर्षकमा थुप्रै खबर छापेको बेला यो निः सन्देह सकारात्मक सन्देस हो ।
डुरेक्स कन्डोम निर्माण गर्ने एक बेलायती कम्पनिद्धारा गरिएको सर्भेमा भारतका ६१ प्रतिशत जनता स्वस्थ यौन अभ्यासबाट सन्तुष्ट छन् । सर्भेमा पहिलो स्थान नाइजेरिया (६७ प्रतिशत) र दोस्रो स्थानमा उत्तर अमेरिकी मुलुक मेक्सिको(६३प्रतिशत) छ । यसपछि पोल्याण्ड(५४प्रतिशत), ग्रीस(५१ प्रतिशत), होल्याण्ड(५० प्रतिशत), दक्षिण अफ्रिका (५०प्रतिशत) र स्पेन ( ४९ प्रतिशत ) छ । उक्त कम्पनिले यो सर्भेमा संख्यात्मकभन्दा गुणात्मक र स्तरिय सम्बन्धलाई आधार बनाएको हो ।
रोचक पक्ष के छ भने आफ्नो जीवनकालमा १० देखि १२ जनासम्म यौन साथी बनाउने अमेरिका र क्यानाडाका मात्र ४८ प्रतिशत जनताले यौनमा सन्तुष्ट रहेको बताएका छन् । भारतीय जोडीमा यौनक्रिडा र चरम सुखको दौरानमा शारीरीक, मानसिक एवं भावनात्मक समर्पण धेरै बढी देखिएको सर्भेमा भनिएको छ ।
डुरेक्सले तनाव मुक्त सम्बन्ध, यौन स्वीकार्यता, सेक्स सम्बन्धी भ्रम र यसको निरन्तरतासँग जोडिएको प्रश्न गरेको थियो । सर्भेमा भारतीयहरुको यौन जीवन पश्चिमाभन्दा अब्बल देखियो । बाहिरबाट नीकै सरल र सामान्य देखिने भारतीयहरुले देखावटी र नक्कली जीवनयापनभन्दा अझैं टाढा रहेको हुनाले प्राकृतिक यौनान्द लिन सकेको सर्भेमा भनिएको छ ।
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बेलायती पुरुषहरुमा आफ्नो पार्टनरसँगको सेक्समा
अरुची बढ्दै गएको अध्ययनले देखाएको छ । एक वेबसाइटले गरेको अध्ययन अनुसार
हरेक तिन जनामा दुइ जना बेलायती पुरुषहरु आफ्नी पार्टनरसँगको सेक्स टार्नका
लागि आफु निकै थाकेको बहाना बनाउने गरेका छन् ।
सर्भेक्षण अनुसार ४७ प्रतिशत पुरुषहरु आफु सेक्स गर्ने मूडमा नभएको भन्ने खश्रो जवाफ दिएर श्रीमतीलाई पिठ्यू फर्काइदिएर सुत्छन् भने हरेक पाँचमा एक जनाले टाउको दुखेको बहाना पार्दै श्रीमतीलाई छल्छन् अर्थात् श्रीमतीसँगको यौनक्रिडाबाट उम्किन्छन् ।
पुरुषहरुले श्रीमतीसँग सेक्न नगर्नका लागि अपनाउने अरु बहानाहरुमा आफु घरपालुवा जनावरको हेरचाह गर्दा निकै थाकेको देखि लिएर आफु टेलिभिजन हेर्ने काममा व्यस्त भएको सम्म हुने गरेका छन् ।
अध्ययन अनुसार कतिपयले आज मौसम खराब रहेको भन्ने बहाना बनाएर मौसमलाई दोष दिँदै श्रीमतीको आलिंगनबाट उम्किने जुक्ति अपनाउँछन् ।
अध्ययनले के कुरा पत्ता लगाएको छ भने बेलायती पुरुषले यसरी पार्टनरसँग संसर्गमा रुची नदेखाउनुको मुख्य कारण उनीहरुमा यौन उत्तेजनाको कमी र लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्या प्रमुख हो । अध्ययनमा लिइएका झण्डै एक चौथाइ पुरुषहरुले आफुमा यौनिक समस्या रहेको स्विकार गरे भने ७ प्रतिशत लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्याबाट पीडित रहेको पाइयो । यद्यपि केवल १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र आफ्नो श्रीमानमा यस्तो यौनिक समस्या रहेको स्विकार गरे ।
अध्ययनबाट के निष्कर्ष निस्कियो भने, ६० प्रतिशत पुरुषले आज म निकै थाकेको छु भनेर सेक्स टार्छन्, ४७ प्रतिशतले आज मलाई सेक्स गर्ने मूड छैन भनेर तर्किन्छन्, २० प्रतिशतले टाउको दुखेको बहाना पार्छन् । त्यस्तै ७ प्रतिशतले आफ्नो लिंग कहिल्यैपनि उत्तेजित नभएको पीडा पोखेका छन् भने केवल १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र आफ्नो लोग्नेको लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्या रहेको पत्तो पाएका छन् ।
सर्भेक्षण अनुसार ४७ प्रतिशत पुरुषहरु आफु सेक्स गर्ने मूडमा नभएको भन्ने खश्रो जवाफ दिएर श्रीमतीलाई पिठ्यू फर्काइदिएर सुत्छन् भने हरेक पाँचमा एक जनाले टाउको दुखेको बहाना पार्दै श्रीमतीलाई छल्छन् अर्थात् श्रीमतीसँगको यौनक्रिडाबाट उम्किन्छन् ।
पुरुषहरुले श्रीमतीसँग सेक्न नगर्नका लागि अपनाउने अरु बहानाहरुमा आफु घरपालुवा जनावरको हेरचाह गर्दा निकै थाकेको देखि लिएर आफु टेलिभिजन हेर्ने काममा व्यस्त भएको सम्म हुने गरेका छन् ।
अध्ययन अनुसार कतिपयले आज मौसम खराब रहेको भन्ने बहाना बनाएर मौसमलाई दोष दिँदै श्रीमतीको आलिंगनबाट उम्किने जुक्ति अपनाउँछन् ।
अध्ययनले के कुरा पत्ता लगाएको छ भने बेलायती पुरुषले यसरी पार्टनरसँग संसर्गमा रुची नदेखाउनुको मुख्य कारण उनीहरुमा यौन उत्तेजनाको कमी र लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्या प्रमुख हो । अध्ययनमा लिइएका झण्डै एक चौथाइ पुरुषहरुले आफुमा यौनिक समस्या रहेको स्विकार गरे भने ७ प्रतिशत लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्याबाट पीडित रहेको पाइयो । यद्यपि केवल १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र आफ्नो श्रीमानमा यस्तो यौनिक समस्या रहेको स्विकार गरे ।
अध्ययनबाट के निष्कर्ष निस्कियो भने, ६० प्रतिशत पुरुषले आज म निकै थाकेको छु भनेर सेक्स टार्छन्, ४७ प्रतिशतले आज मलाई सेक्स गर्ने मूड छैन भनेर तर्किन्छन्, २० प्रतिशतले टाउको दुखेको बहाना पार्छन् । त्यस्तै ७ प्रतिशतले आफ्नो लिंग कहिल्यैपनि उत्तेजित नभएको पीडा पोखेका छन् भने केवल १६ प्रतिशत महिलाले मात्र आफ्नो लोग्नेको लिंग उत्तेजित नहुने समस्या रहेको पत्तो पाएका छन् ।
The six things he's hoping you'll do the first time you have sex
Another week and another study (this one about sliders Vs deciders) about how likely we are NOT to survive the distance with our current partners.
Which is utterly depressing in a glass-half-empty way.
Look at it with glass-half-full eyes, however, and it also means you get the chance to go through that delicious falling in love stage again…and have first time sex. What's changed from the last time you were single?
For those who are embarking on a sexy, new relationship and eager to make a good first impression, here's what men tell me your new lover's hoping for.
He wants you to…
• Give great oral sex: it's not only one of his favourite things, it shows you're as interested in giving as you are receiving pleasure.
• Be active: I'm not suggesting you bounce around the bed like a four-year-old who's just consumed their body weight in sweets, but please don't leave it up to him to make all the moves.
• Not stress about your body: Hiding under the covers, insisting the lights are turned out - you know the drill. Even if your thighs do look like orange peel (and do they really?) you're having sex with the man! Unless it's a one-night-stand, at some point he's going to have to see you naked. Get it over and done with: let him see everything first time around and you'll both feel better.
Not stress about his performance: First time sex can be intense and erotic but it's also highly charged with expectations. Both of you are nervous and eager for it to go well but a female's nerves are more easily hidden. (Seriously, who'd want a penis when it's such an obvious barometer of anxiety?)
Two things are on the cards if he's nervous of performing: a lack of erection or premature ejaculation. How you react to either predicts how good sex will be for the two of you in the future.
Treat it light-heartedly, don't make a big deal and let him know it's normal and you understand, and you're set for open, honest, communicative sex. Over-react, take it personally or make him feel bad about it and he'll be even more apprehensive next time around with disastrous results.
• Let him know you're enjoying it: Listen, he's watched the odd episode of SATC and (if you're really lucky) Girls and maybe even picked up the odd sex book or two. He knows women fake it and it's not that easy to get everything right.
Don't patronise him by pretending you like everything he does (unless of course you do!) but do let him know when he's doing something particularly well. A moan or 'ummmm' will do.
• Save the post-sex emotional fallout for your friends: If he really doesn't want to know you now he's had his wicked way, you trying to find out if you're an item will be even more humiliating. If he really likes you, he (or you) will be in contact within a day or so to organise your next date.
The more relaxed you are about the whole thing, the more smitten he'll be. Be affectionate and shoot a few meaningful looks so he knows it meant something (if indeed it did), but resist hanging onto his legs as he makes for the front door.
For those who are embarking on a sexy, new relationship and eager to make a good first impression, here's what men tell me your new lover's hoping for.
He wants you to…
• Give great oral sex: it's not only one of his favourite things, it shows you're as interested in giving as you are receiving pleasure.
• Be active: I'm not suggesting you bounce around the bed like a four-year-old who's just consumed their body weight in sweets, but please don't leave it up to him to make all the moves.
• Not stress about your body: Hiding under the covers, insisting the lights are turned out - you know the drill. Even if your thighs do look like orange peel (and do they really?) you're having sex with the man! Unless it's a one-night-stand, at some point he's going to have to see you naked. Get it over and done with: let him see everything first time around and you'll both feel better.
Not stress about his performance: First time sex can be intense and erotic but it's also highly charged with expectations. Both of you are nervous and eager for it to go well but a female's nerves are more easily hidden. (Seriously, who'd want a penis when it's such an obvious barometer of anxiety?)
Two things are on the cards if he's nervous of performing: a lack of erection or premature ejaculation. How you react to either predicts how good sex will be for the two of you in the future.
Treat it light-heartedly, don't make a big deal and let him know it's normal and you understand, and you're set for open, honest, communicative sex. Over-react, take it personally or make him feel bad about it and he'll be even more apprehensive next time around with disastrous results.
• Let him know you're enjoying it: Listen, he's watched the odd episode of SATC and (if you're really lucky) Girls and maybe even picked up the odd sex book or two. He knows women fake it and it's not that easy to get everything right.
Don't patronise him by pretending you like everything he does (unless of course you do!) but do let him know when he's doing something particularly well. A moan or 'ummmm' will do.
• Save the post-sex emotional fallout for your friends: If he really doesn't want to know you now he's had his wicked way, you trying to find out if you're an item will be even more humiliating. If he really likes you, he (or you) will be in contact within a day or so to organise your next date.
The more relaxed you are about the whole thing, the more smitten he'll be. Be affectionate and shoot a few meaningful looks so he knows it meant something (if indeed it did), but resist hanging onto his legs as he makes for the front door.
William Masters and Virginia Johnson became famous for the groundbreaking sex research they conducted at Washington University in St. Louis in the 1950s and 1960s—so famous, in fact, that Showtime decided to turn their story into a new drama series, Masters of Sex. Masters and Johnson’s discoveries changed the way we think about sex and about women’s sexuality in particular. Their studies showed that women were capable of multiple orgasms, among other things. These were revolutionary ideas the time, but new research about women and sex has revealed some facts that would shock even Masters and Johnson. Here’s the latest on sex research from Dr. Eden Fromberg of SoHo OBGYN and Naomi Wolf’s most recent book, Vagina: A New Biography. 1. Cycles of light affect our fertility
Women used to menstruate during the new moon (when it’s dark at night) and ovulate during a full moon (when it’s light). Now, in a world full of artificial lighting and bright screens, women are not as in tune with the connection between their biology and nature. Some have tried “lunaception,” altering the lights in their bedrooms based on the moon lighting to change their ovulation.
2. Women can get pregnant five to eight days after having sex
Studies have shown that some sperm can live in the cervical mucus crypt before the egg is actually fertilized for anywhere from five to eight days after sex.
3. Wearing high heels can negatively affect a woman’s orgasm
Certain high-end shoe brands developed the arch in their high-heeled shoes to approximate the arch in a woman’s pelvis when she is having an orgasm. The heels create a contraction in the pelvic floor, which is problematic because the pelvic floor then cannot contract further during orgasm. “An orgasm is usually like going from zero to 60,” explains Fromberg. “If you’re already at 55 [from wearing heels], you’re not going to have a full experience.”
4. Orgasms can make women more creative
Studies have shown that orgasms can make women more confident, productive and creative. And it’s a feedback loop—women achieve fuller orgasms when they are being creative.
5. Birth control pills dampen the libido
Any hormonal contraception has that psychological side effect. Sometimes women even have trouble conceiving once they’re off the pill because while they may have been attracted to their partner on the pill, they’re not actually compatible with each other biochemically without the extra hormones.
6. Sitting in chairs can arouse women
Pudendal nerves, underneath the buttox and the sitting bones, feed arousal tissues (in the vagina, clitoris, anus, etc.). Sitting in a certain kind of chair pressing on the pudendal nerves in a certain way can lead to sexual arousal.
7. …But it can also dampen their orgasms
On the other hand, sitting in chairs for most of the day shortens the pelvic floor and psoas muscles—muscles which are essential to a full-body orgasm. When these muscles are tight from sitting too much, women find it harder to achieve a great orgasm.
8. Women have three erogenous zones
The clitoris, the G Spot, AND the opening of the cervix. Some argue nipples belong on that list too.
9. Nerve endings are distributed differently in every woman’s vagina
Like a snowflake, each woman is unique in that her nerve endings are distributed in her genitalia differently than anyone else. That means, every woman needs to employ slightly different methods to achieve orgasm.
10. The pulsations a woman feels during orgasm are actually her uterus trying to gather sperm
Round ligaments that end in the labia majora “rock the uterus back and forth during orgasm so that the cervix has the opportunity to potentially scoop semen up that may have pooled in the back of the vagina to enhance fertility,” says Fromberg.
11. Being well hydrated leads to better orgasms
Because the body is mostly fluid, being hydrated enhances people’s ability to achieve orgasm.
12. All woman can achieve orgasm
Almost no woman was born unable to achieve an orgasm. “Women have the innate machinery programmed to have orgasms,” Fromberg explains. “But not everybody learns how to use that machinery well.”
Women used to menstruate during the new moon (when it’s dark at night) and ovulate during a full moon (when it’s light). Now, in a world full of artificial lighting and bright screens, women are not as in tune with the connection between their biology and nature. Some have tried “lunaception,” altering the lights in their bedrooms based on the moon lighting to change their ovulation.
2. Women can get pregnant five to eight days after having sex
Studies have shown that some sperm can live in the cervical mucus crypt before the egg is actually fertilized for anywhere from five to eight days after sex.
3. Wearing high heels can negatively affect a woman’s orgasm
Certain high-end shoe brands developed the arch in their high-heeled shoes to approximate the arch in a woman’s pelvis when she is having an orgasm. The heels create a contraction in the pelvic floor, which is problematic because the pelvic floor then cannot contract further during orgasm. “An orgasm is usually like going from zero to 60,” explains Fromberg. “If you’re already at 55 [from wearing heels], you’re not going to have a full experience.”
4. Orgasms can make women more creative
Studies have shown that orgasms can make women more confident, productive and creative. And it’s a feedback loop—women achieve fuller orgasms when they are being creative.
5. Birth control pills dampen the libido
Any hormonal contraception has that psychological side effect. Sometimes women even have trouble conceiving once they’re off the pill because while they may have been attracted to their partner on the pill, they’re not actually compatible with each other biochemically without the extra hormones.
6. Sitting in chairs can arouse women
Pudendal nerves, underneath the buttox and the sitting bones, feed arousal tissues (in the vagina, clitoris, anus, etc.). Sitting in a certain kind of chair pressing on the pudendal nerves in a certain way can lead to sexual arousal.
7. …But it can also dampen their orgasms
On the other hand, sitting in chairs for most of the day shortens the pelvic floor and psoas muscles—muscles which are essential to a full-body orgasm. When these muscles are tight from sitting too much, women find it harder to achieve a great orgasm.
8. Women have three erogenous zones
The clitoris, the G Spot, AND the opening of the cervix. Some argue nipples belong on that list too.
9. Nerve endings are distributed differently in every woman’s vagina
Like a snowflake, each woman is unique in that her nerve endings are distributed in her genitalia differently than anyone else. That means, every woman needs to employ slightly different methods to achieve orgasm.
10. The pulsations a woman feels during orgasm are actually her uterus trying to gather sperm
Round ligaments that end in the labia majora “rock the uterus back and forth during orgasm so that the cervix has the opportunity to potentially scoop semen up that may have pooled in the back of the vagina to enhance fertility,” says Fromberg.
11. Being well hydrated leads to better orgasms
Because the body is mostly fluid, being hydrated enhances people’s ability to achieve orgasm.
12. All woman can achieve orgasm
Almost no woman was born unable to achieve an orgasm. “Women have the innate machinery programmed to have orgasms,” Fromberg explains. “But not everybody learns how to use that machinery well.”
She has yet to officially comment about the baggie containing a mysterious white powder she dropped outside her home Wednesday.
And Cara Delevingne certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday.
The 20-year-old model was too busy kissing her punk lookalike for the night, Sienna Miller, and hobnobbing with the fashion elite to be bothered.
What drug scandal? Cara Delevingne, seen here locking lips with Sienna Miller, certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday
What drug scandal? Cara Delevingne, seen here locking lips with Sienna Miller, certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday
The five-foot-eight stunner later tweeted the lip-lock Instagram with the caption: 'Studded love! X'
Both blondes rocked similar hairstyles and vamped it up in studded Burberry designs, which made sense since Cara is the face of the brand's Body Tender fragrance.
Burberry's Chief Creative Officer Christopher Bailey hinted the British company would be sticking with Delevingne despite the white powder scandal as they posed next to famed fashion photographer Mario Testino.
And Cara Delevingne certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday.
The 20-year-old model was too busy kissing her punk lookalike for the night, Sienna Miller, and hobnobbing with the fashion elite to be bothered.
What drug scandal? Cara Delevingne, seen here locking lips with Sienna Miller, certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday
What drug scandal? Cara Delevingne, seen here locking lips with Sienna Miller, certainly didn't let an alleged drug scandal get in the way of her good time at the Met Ball in New York Monday
The five-foot-eight stunner later tweeted the lip-lock Instagram with the caption: 'Studded love! X'
Both blondes rocked similar hairstyles and vamped it up in studded Burberry designs, which made sense since Cara is the face of the brand's Body Tender fragrance.
Burberry's Chief Creative Officer Christopher Bailey hinted the British company would be sticking with Delevingne despite the white powder scandal as they posed next to famed fashion photographer Mario Testino.
पुरा भिडियो हेर्न त्यो माथि बक्सको बिचमा क्लिक गर्नुहोस
Some scientists decided to do the following experiments on a dog.
For the first experiment, they cut one of the dog's legs off, then they told the dog to walk. The dog got up and walked, so they they learned that a dog could walk with just three legs.
For the second experiment, they cut off a second leg from the dog, then they told the dog once more to walk. The dog was still able to walk with only two legs.
For the third experiment, they cut off yet another leg from the dog and once more they told the dog to walk. However, the dog wasn't able to walk with only one leg.
As a result of these three experiments, the scientists wrote in their final report that the dog had lost it's hearing after having three legs cut off.
येस्को भिडिओ हेर्न को लागि माथिको बक्स भित्र click गर्नु होस् !
Close on the heels of an international furore over the state of California’s decision to ban same-sex marriages, the apex court of nascent Himalayan republic Nepal has given itas nod to such unions.“My eyes were filled with tears when I read the Supreme Court decision,” said Sunil Babu Pant, Nepal’s first publicly gay lawmaker and a gay rights icon in South Asia.
“We, the gay community of Nepal, are the most proud citizens.”
Pant’s exultation came after the Supreme Court Monday delivered full judgement regarding a ground-breaking verdict it had announced last year, recognising sexual minorities, who were among the most oppressed in conservative, patriarchal Nepali society, as being born such and entitled to all the rights and remedies all other Nepali citizens enjoyed.
Now, following up on the judgement, the top court has asked the Maoist government to form a seven-member committee to study same sex partnership/marriage acts in other countries and recommend a similar act to the Nepal government.
The court has also asked the government - that is scheduled to promulgate a new constitution by 2010 - to ensure that the language of the new statute does not discriminate against the sexual minorities.
Also striking a blow for transgenders, who were the butt of abuse for crossdressing, the court has ruled that crossdressing is not perversion but an individual’s freedom of expression.
Nepal’s beleaguered and reviled gay community got a boost for their rights in 2006, after the fall of king Gyanendra’s army-backed government which had clamped down on the community’s rights and seen them join the nationwide public protests against the royal regime.
In August 2006, four months after the king’s exit as head of government, Pant’s gay rights organisation Blue Diamond Society supported the first publicly conducted gay wedding in Nepal.
The first same sex marriage, however, came unstuck since then with one of the partners being a drug abuser.
“We, the gay community of Nepal, are the most proud citizens.”
Pant’s exultation came after the Supreme Court Monday delivered full judgement regarding a ground-breaking verdict it had announced last year, recognising sexual minorities, who were among the most oppressed in conservative, patriarchal Nepali society, as being born such and entitled to all the rights and remedies all other Nepali citizens enjoyed.
Now, following up on the judgement, the top court has asked the Maoist government to form a seven-member committee to study same sex partnership/marriage acts in other countries and recommend a similar act to the Nepal government.
The court has also asked the government - that is scheduled to promulgate a new constitution by 2010 - to ensure that the language of the new statute does not discriminate against the sexual minorities.
Also striking a blow for transgenders, who were the butt of abuse for crossdressing, the court has ruled that crossdressing is not perversion but an individual’s freedom of expression.
Nepal’s beleaguered and reviled gay community got a boost for their rights in 2006, after the fall of king Gyanendra’s army-backed government which had clamped down on the community’s rights and seen them join the nationwide public protests against the royal regime.
In August 2006, four months after the king’s exit as head of government, Pant’s gay rights organisation Blue Diamond Society supported the first publicly conducted gay wedding in Nepal.
The first same sex marriage, however, came unstuck since then with one of the partners being a drug abuser.
पर्सनलिटि एण्ड इन्डिभिज्युअल डिफरेन्सेस नामक जर्नलमा प्रकाशित रिपोर्टका अनुसार ४० वर्षको उमेर नजिक पुगेपछि महिलाहरु थाहा हुन्छ कि आफ्नो बायोलजिकल क्लाकको अन्तिम समय नजिक छ। महिलाहरुलाई यतिबेला लाग्दछ कि बच्चा जन्माउने आफ्नो क्षमता अर्थात ‘विन्डो अफ अपरच्युनिटी’ अब चाँडै समाप्त हुनेछ।
नयाँ अध्ययनका अनुसार महिलाहरु आफ्नो ३० दशकमा र ४० को सुरुवाती वर्षहरुमा सेक्स्युअल्ली फ्यान्ट्यासी र अफेयर्सलाई लिएर जवानीका दिनहरुमा भन्दा बढी सक्रिय रहन्छन् ।
९०० महिलामा गरिएको सर्भेबाट यो तथ्य सार्वजनिक भएको छ कि उमेरको यो अवस्थामा महिलाहरुमा सेक्सको इच्छासमेत बढ्दछ। सर्भेमा महिलाहरुलाई तीन ग्रुप बाँडिएको थियो । पहिलो समूहमा १९ देखि २६ वर्षका महिला -जसको फर्टिलिटी निकै बलियो हुन्छ), दोस्रो समूहमा २७ देखि ४५ वर्ष उमेर समूहका महिला -जसको फर्टिलिटी क्षमता बढ्दो हुन्छ) र तेस्रो समूहमा तीम महिलाहरुलाई राखिएको थियो जो मीनोपांजबाट गुज्रीरहेका छन् या पुनः मिनोपांजसम्म पुग्नै लागेका छन् । सर्भेमा प्रौढ उमेरका महिलाहरु सेक्सप्रति बढी सक्रिय र इच्छुक पाइएको थियो ।
हालैको एक सर्भेक्षणले विवाहित जोडीका सेक्स सम्बन्धी केही रोचक तथ्य फेला पारेको छ । आइ भिलेज भन्ने वेबसाइटले गरेको सर्भेक्षणमा केही त्यस्ता सेक्स सेक्रेट फेला परे जुन निम्न छन्:
-६८ प्रतिशत पुरुषले आफ्नो सबैभन्दा उत्तम सेक्स पार्टनर केटीसँग विवाह गर्छन् जबकी आफ्नो वेस्ट सेक्सुअल पार्टनरसँग विहे गर्ने केटीहरुको संख्या भने ४५ प्रतिशत मात्र हुन्छ ।
-पुरुषका औषतमा ६ देखि १० जनासम्म यौनसाथी हुन्छन् जबकी महिलाका बढिमा२ देखि ५ मात्र । १९ प्रतिशत पुरुष तथा महिलाका केवल १ जनामात्र सेक्स पार्टनर हुन्छन्।
-४२ प्रतिशत महिलालाई आफ्नो श्रीमानले अनलाइनमा अश्लील चिजहरु हेरेको पत्तो नै हुँदैन । यस्तै ६३ प्रतिशत विवाहित महिला आफुले कहिल्यै पोर्न सामाग्री नहेरेको ढोँग गर्छन् ।
-७९ प्रतिशत पुरुषले आफ्नी श्रीमती सेक्सबाट सन्तुष्ट रहेकोमा ढुक्क हुन्छन् तर यसरी यौनसुख पाएँ भन्ने महिला केवल ६१ प्रतिशत मात्र हुन्छन् ।
-५५ प्रतिशत महिलालाई मात्र आफ्नो लोग्ने आफुसँगको सेक्सबाट सन्तुष्ट रहेको लाग्छ तर पत्नीसँगको सम्भोगबाट सन्तुष्ट छु भन्ने पुरुषहरु ७९ प्रतिशत छन् ।
-५२ प्रतिशत महिला तथा ४९ प्रतिशत पुरुषहरु बच्चा जन्मेपछि आफ्नो सेक्स लाइफ ध्वस्त भएको ठान्छन् ।
-४२ प्रतिशत पुरुष ओछ्यानमा महिलाले सेक्सको पहिलो प्रयास गरोस् भन्ने चाहन्छन् ।
४१ प्रतिशत पुरुषले मुखमैथुनको इच्छा राख्छन् भने ३० प्रतिशतले मलद्धार सेक्समा रुची राख्छन् ।
३५ प्रतिशत महिला लामो पाकक्रिडा चाहन्छन्, केवल २२ प्रतिशत महिलालाई मात्र मुख मैथुनमा इच्छा लाग्छ ।
-श्रीमतीको तुलनामा श्रीमान बढि शंकालु हुन्छन् । आफ्नी श्रीमती कसैसँग सल्केकी छे की ? भनेर ३४ प्रतिशत पुरुषले श्रीमतीको मोबाइल चेक गर्छन् भने यसरी लोगनेमाथि शंका लागेर मोबाइल चेक गर्ने महिला केवल २० प्रतिशत मात्र हुन्छन् ।
Your state of mind can have a big impact on your ability to get aroused. Even if you’re with someone who you find sexually appealing, worrying about whether you’ll be able to please your partner can make it impossible for you to do just that.
In men, one of the effects of the stress hormones is to constrict blood vessels. Less blood flowing into the penis makes it more difficult to have an erection. Even men who normally don’t have any trouble getting excited can become unable to get an erection when they’re overcome by sexual performance anxiety.
Sexual performance anxiety isn’t diagnosed as often in women as it is in men, but it can affect arousal in women, too. Anxiety can prevent women from getting lubricated enough to have sex, and it can take away the physical desire to make love.
Anxiety can take both men and women out of the mind-set needed to have sex. When you’re focused on whether you’ll perform well, you can’t concentrate on what you’re doing in bed. A distracted lover is an inattentive lover, which can make you feel like even more of a failure. Even if you are able to get aroused, you may be too distracted to reach orgasm.
Sexual performance anxiety leads to a perpetual cycle. You become so anxious about sex that you can’t perform, which leads to even more sexual performance anxiety.
Sexual performance anxiety isn’t diagnosed as often in women as it is in men, but it can affect arousal in women, too. Anxiety can prevent women from getting lubricated enough to have sex, and it can take away the physical desire to make love.
Anxiety can take both men and women out of the mind-set needed to have sex. When you’re focused on whether you’ll perform well, you can’t concentrate on what you’re doing in bed. A distracted lover is an inattentive lover, which can make you feel like even more of a failure. Even if you are able to get aroused, you may be too distracted to reach orgasm.
Sexual performance anxiety leads to a perpetual cycle. You become so anxious about sex that you can’t perform, which leads to even more sexual performance anxiety.
Some scientists decided to do the following experiments on a dog.
For the first experiment, they cut one of the dog's legs off, then they told the dog to walk. The dog got up and walked, so they they learned that a dog could walk with just three legs.
For the second experiment, they cut off a second leg from the dog, then they told the dog once more to walk. The dog was still able to walk with only two legs.
For the third experiment, they cut off yet another leg from the dog and once more they told the dog to walk. However, the dog wasn't able to walk with only one leg.
As a result of these three experiments, the scientists wrote in their final report that the dog had lost it's hearing after having three legs cut off.
If my periods are irregular, will it be harder for me to get pregnant?
Can't we just try and see what happens?
When is the best time to have sex if we're trying to conceive?
How do I know when I'm ovulating?
When is the best time to have sex if we're trying to conceive?
Ovulation Calculator
Find out when you're likely to ovulate – and boost your chances of conceiving.
Timing is everything. Sperm can live for two to three days, but the egg is around for only 12 to 24 hours. To increase the likelihood of conception, it's important to have intercourse more than once around the time of ovulation. A good approach is to have sex one to two days before ovulation and again on the day you ovulate. That way, there's more likely to be a healthy supply of sperm waiting in the fallopian tube when an egg is released.
Of course, exactly when a woman ovulates isn't altogether clear. It all depends on the length of your menstrual cycle. A woman typically ovulates about 14 days before her next period — not mid-cycle, as is commonly held. If you have a 28-day cycle, which is the average, then you would ovulate halfway through your cycle. But if you have a 35-day cycle, you would ovulate around day 21, not day 17.
To determine the time when you're most likely to be fertile, try our ovulation calculator.
How do I know when I'm ovulating?
Some women are very aware of when they ovulate. Other women don't notice any changes at all. If you're thinking about getting pregnant, try to track your cycle for a couple of months. Some subtle signs of ovulation include:
Breast tenderness
Slight feelings of discomfort in your middle abdomen
Increased vaginal discharge that takes on a wetter, egg-white-type quality
A slight increase (about 0.4 to 1 degree Fahrenheit) in basal body temperature, or BBT, which you can detect by taking your temperature each morning before you get out of bed, two days after you ovulate. You can get a good sense of your cycle if you chart your BBT for a few months.